By Dave B.
I don’t mean that as any disparagement against a particular individual or group. In fact, I wish I did. Then it would just be a simple matter of avoiding people who share the trait(s) that make them exhausting and seeking out the people who don’t. The problem is that all of us are exhausting for the exact same reasons, regardless of our education levels, our belief systems, how much we volunteer, what job we have, or whatever other ways we choose to distinguish ourselves from each other.
It’s not the lying, cheating, stealing, hurting, murdering, or any other action taken with malicious intent that makes us exhausting (although all of those things suck, of course). What makes us exhausting is our thought processes. Presenting opinions as facts. Wishful thinking leading to a lack of preparation. Wanting to succeed without putting in the work required to do so and then complaining that the world is unfair/rigged/enthralled by a conspiracy. Believing that our feelings are some mystical concoction beyond our control and therefore must be acted on all the time. Having to break so many things down into Us vs. Them.
I used to be a person that cared deeply about certain issues. Politics, economics, people’s mental, physical, and emotional well-being. I still care about those things and others…to an extent. But as I’ve continued to remain alive, I’ve come to realize that although things like systems, and ideologies, and intent do matter, they also don’t because even perfect systems, ideologies, and intents will be screwed up by quirks inherent in human cognition that we can’t really do anything about.
I’m not suggesting that we stop trying to make the world a “better” place. I’m not really suggesting anything. I just kinda wish that we lived in a world where people weren’t so desperate to belong to something bigger than ourselves that we throw the sense and agency that we naturally possess out of the window for the temporary satisfaction that we get from a sense of belonging and acknowledgement. It’s our emotional neediness that is exhausting. That’s all I have to say about that. We’ll be back to the reviews tomorrow. Until then, peace be with you.